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Dog Stress and Anxiety – How to Turn Bad Stress to Good

Dog stress and anxiety – how to turn bad stress to good; learn how to enable ‘good stress’ response for the mental and physical well-being of your dog and yourself. First let’s talk about good stress vs. bad stress, and then we will talk about the major building blocks for enabling good stress response…

Good Stress – Is There Such a Thing?

The answer is yes. There is a specific term for this type of stress – it is called ‘eustress’ – the prefix ‘eu’ derived from the Greek word meaning well or good. It is normal for our dogs to experience short-term (acute) stress. Short term (acute) stress response and management has always been a part pf everyday life for dogs, just as it has been for us humans. On a daily basis, a well-adjusted dog may experience good stress multiple times a day. For example, a puppy learning to go up or down stairs, a dog competing in agility or running to catch-up with his/her friend, trying to figure out how to get a treat out of a Kong, learning to be left alone for the first time, etc. Good stress provides the additional energy required to: meet a challenge; to learn a new skill; adjust to changes in routine, and environment; to perform at maximum output (mental and physical), etc. These examples create short term stress, and are typically experienced as part of normal everyday life. Good stress was part of your dog’s ancestor’s daily life too – the daily hunt for food required good stress response. Good stress hones physical and mental response to enable survival in good times and times of danger. Good stress for us humans works the same way.

When Good Stress Goes Bad

Let’s look at a few typical examples. One – you have a puppy that is simply doing that normal puppy thing – nipping your hands; your clothes; refusing to walk on his/her leash; won’t give up a toy or other object; gets into a minor ‘disagreement’ with a pack-mate, etc. Your response to your pup’s behaviour may be one or a combination of the following: you get tense, nervous, frustrated or otherwise upset, and are unable to provide the direction needed to calm your dog, and yourself. Two – you leave your dog alone in the house for the first time, and you do so with a sense of guilt and discomfort. Three – your dog experiences a thunderstorm for the first time – he/she becomes startled. Four – your dog refuses to eat a meal and you start to fuss. Five – you move to a new home and feel stressed during, and after the move – your dog senses your stress and is ‘uncomfortable’ in the new home. Six – you take your dog to the dog park and another dog displays or acts aggressively towards your dog, no physical damage occurred but you and your dog are ’shook-up’ by the experience; or worse if your dog has suffered actual physical harm – you leave the dog park upset. All of these situations can create psychological trauma leading to long-term stress (chronic stress). To avoid the development of chronic stress you must know how to create and maintain a good stress response in yourself and your dog.

Chronic stress is an inflammatory condition that adversely effects mental and physical well-being, reducing quality of life and can shorten life-span.

What You Can Do to Support Good Stress Response

Choose a holistic approach that considers all of the factors – major and minor, that enable a ‘good’ stress response, vs. a ‘bad’ stress response. To understand how we can best support good-stress response we need to keep in mind factors that contribute to good and bad stress-reactivity. These factors include:

  1. Inherited and acquired traits
  2. Environmental influences – acute and long-term (animate – example your influence on your dog, other dogs influence on your dog, etc.), inanimate – example extreme weather conditions)
  3. Previously conditioned behaviour – for example your dog has learned to be frightened of thunder storms, fears going to the veterinarian, etc.
  4. Communication – for example your ability to communicate clearly to your dog, and understand what your dog is communicating
  5. Diet and health regimen – both play a large supporting role in physical and mental health
  6. Physical and mental health – the state of yours and your dog’s
  7. Psychology – human and canine as pertains to species and the individual human and canine, and the quality of interpretation – read here for an example
  8. Emotional intelligence and physical capacity – as pertains to the individual dog and/or breed of dog, and the individual human, as influenced by societal beliefs, which may acts as constraints and limitations.

Good Communication vs. Misaligned Communication

Our emotions drive our thoughts, and our thoughts drive our body language. When we are not working to align these three components of communication and expression – our emotions take over. When this occurs, we are not grounded, and we are not in a state of ‘normal’; we are in a state of heightened reactivity/arousal. We may be nervous, tense, anxious, insecure, fearful, frustrated, angry – reactive. When this occurs, we have nothing new to contribute to the situation, we are simply reinforcing the unwanted, unhealthy behaviour our dog is experiencing. We are leading by example – the wrong example. To engender a better response in our dogs, we must first achieve a better response within ourselves. We are human. We must accept that we can never be perfect. We must accept that we are creatures of emotion – but within that, we must also learn to preserve and operate from a place of patience, logic and empathy.

Enabling Good Stress Response from the Inside Out

In partnership with managing how we respond to situations we should also review our dog’s diet, and health regimen. Optimal physiological health plays an important role in ‘good’ stress response. Ours and our dog’s reaction to stress is effected by conditioning, by the health of our body and our brain. If the food your dog consumes does not support good: gastrointestinal function, glandular function, and good brain function – the ability to cope with stress is adversely affected. Real food – whole foods, raw foods, minimally processed foods (not highly processed food), combined with herbs and nutraceuticals form the basis of a diet that supports good physical, physiological and mental health. If you must feed your dog highly processed food (i.e. dry dog food) make sure you add some basic health supporting items to the daily diet. Consider adding some real meat and bone broth to your dog’s daily diet. Add some good quality Omega-3 – no dry dog food provides sufficient omega-3. Fish oil sourced from wild or wild caught deep, clean-water fatty fish; or organic hemp oil are good choices. Add a good-source of vitamin C – most vitamin supplements are sourced from China, and are contaminated with heavy metals and other toxins. I prefer vitamin C obtained from eating real food, herbs and nutraceuticals. Organic coconut oil offers many benefits. Look after your dog’s gastro intestinal flora by adding some real, fresh-food sourced probiotics. Probiotics in dry dog food are dead and offer no health benefit. Raw unpasteurized honey is also a good source of prebiotics and probiotics (don’t give raw honey to dogs that are 12 months of age or under). Fresh pureed papaya is an excellent source of digestive enzymes.

You can also consider adding some dog-safe real foods that are high in tryptophan, for example: pumpkin seeds, apple, banana, free-range eggs, free-range turkey, kelp, tart red cherries and wild Alaskan salmon. Be careful to use kelp sourced from clean-uncontaminated wild open waters.

There are some very good pre-blended homeopathic, as well herbal tonics that can be used to help calm an adversely stressed dog. The following are a few important things to keep in mind when thinking of using these tonics. These tonics are best used as a secondary support in combination with; a properly designed diet, and behavioural well-grounded mentoring. While there are some very good quality tonics, there are also many that contain inappropriate, inflammatory and toxic ingredients – choose wisely. Scrutinize the ingredients. Organic chamomile and ginger are two readily available herbs that can be added to food in tea or powder from.

If your dog has a medical health issue or is on any type of conventional drug(s), make sure you check all new items you add to the diet (herbs, nutraceuticals, foods) for interactions with drugs and your animal’s health condition.

Reset Yourself – Reset Your Dog

If your dog has become conditioned to ‘bad’ stress reactions – i.e. to thunder storms, people other dogs, being left alone, vehicle travel, etc.; you must start the process of change within yourself. Examine how you feel when about to enter a situation in which your dog normally gets ‘bad’ stressed. If you are anticipating ‘bad’ stress, if you are anxious, tense, frustrated or otherwise emotional you are directing your dog. If you are grounded, if you feel normal, well-adjusted you can then begin to work with your dog to un-condition ‘bad’ stress reactions. This will need to be done in tandem with techniques to further direct the situation. You must take over all decision making – not allow your dog to decide what he/she should do. For example a dog that has thunder storm anxiety may react by pacing, and hiding, then getting back-up to pace, and look for another hiding spot. Making these decisions is stressful for your dog – if he/she knew what to do she would not be anxious. Take over for your dog. Decide where your dog should lie down, and guide him/her to that spot, and communicate the ‘down’. If your dog gets up, don’t be annoyed – be grounded, be normal. Simply direct your dog back to the spot you selected and direct him/her to lie down. Dogs generally have more patience that their human. Patience in this case can be defined as having the patience to wait quietly, or having the determination to persist until he/she has obtained what he/she wants. Persistence and determination are part of being patient. It is necessary for the human to match and exceed the dog’s patience – this is how respect is earned. Pure logic – if you want another being to do something, to be something you need to be that thing first, yourself. This is leading by example, that is true leadership, and that is pure logic. I always say ‘dogs love logic more than humans’. Dogs do so because they are perceptive.

If your dog is ill, or grieving the loss of a loved human, or animal companion – follow the same rules provided above.

Build Confidence

Don’t ever feel sorry for your dog – sympathy is not confidence building. Feel empathy instead, and let that felling compel you to provide solid leadership to your dog. Dogs are perceptive manipulators of human emotion. Dogs do learn how to emotionally pressure humans. Be aware of this, marvel at the intelligent capacity of your dog – but do not let the pressure alter your focus. Be more persistent than your dog, stay grounded and firm. Focus on what your dog needs rather than on the patterns of the past.

When you truly lead by example – patiently, persistently and without rancor, without guilt and other destabilizing emotions, without punitive force, and with empathy; you become a stabilizing presence, a grounded presence. With this you may earn the right to have your dog’s attention and respect, even in the most stressful of situations.

The Bottom Line  

We cannot change the genes which are dog has inherited, we can’t change what our dog has experienced in the past, but we can have a substantial impact on the present and the long-term. The sum of poor communication and bad diet is anxiety and stress for ourselves and for our dogs. So what is it that we need to do to turn things around? We need to take the time to slow down, be consciously deliberate leaders for our dogs, and support our dogs’ good mental function from the inside-out.

Be The Change, Lead The Change

By carefully following the steps above you can self-regulate yourself, break your own ‘bad’ habits, and preconditioned responses – by doing so you set the foundation to enable good stress response in your dog.

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About Karen Rosenfeld

My name is Karen Rosenfeld. I am an holistic diet nutrition health and wellness practitioner for dogs and cats. I am an holistic behaviorist for dogs. I offer a wealth of real-time, real-life experience. 30 years working and living with dogs and cats. Companion animals are my life, my work, my passion. Maintenance of Health Health Issues and Conditions Custom designed whole food diets, raw and cooked. Recommendations for commercial whole food diets. Consultations available worldwide via FaceTime, FaceBook video and voice, Skype, Phone and email Recommendation and specification of... Species Appropriate: Whole foods Treats Herbs Alternative medicines Supplemental foods Treatment and Remedy Holistic Behaviorist Services for Dogs Include: Obedience Training Behavior Modification Psychological Rehabilitation In-person Sessions Sessions available worldwide via FaceTime, FaceBook video and voice, Skype, Phone Affiliations to Companies None. I don’t sell food or supplements. I am NOT aligned with any companies. I prefer to select best solutions for my individual clients’ situation. My client services are available around the world. 🇺🇸USA 🇨🇦Canada 🇬🇧UK 🇦🇺Australia 🇪🇺Europe 🇨🇷Costa Rica and other Central American Countries 🇦🇪United Arab Emirates 🇸🇪Sweden and other Scandinavian Countries 🇸🇬Singapore and other Countries in Asia etc. Consultations and Sessions 📧Email: karen@ottawavalleydogwhispererer.ca 📞Phone: 1-613-293-3707 📱FaceTime 📱FaceBook video or voice 💻Skype 📖Holistic Wellness eBooks custom designed to suit 🚶In-person Sessions only available in Ontario, Canada.

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  1. Hi, I’m wondering if you have ever had a dog with anxiety that doesn’t like walks. When I get his harness out or mention a walk he runs and hides, or goes to his bed and closes his eyes etc… peeking out to see if I will just leave him alone. Once I get him walking he seems fine and his tail comes up however he will only walk to the far left?? I’ve never experienced this before? I also have 2 other small dogs he walks with, they all seem to have their “spot” on the walk, but he refuses to walk on the right at all?? Please advise if u can Thanking you in advance Karen

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